I am a 29 year old male with a fairly long history of ADHD.
I had the typical issues, the inability to pay attention to pretty much anything that didnt totally captivate me (Grades 8 through 12 were not very fun for me, and I came very close to failing 11th grade because I could not force myself to pay attention and apply myself for some of the classes I had). I had issues with money; yes, I am aware that a lot is said about parents who spoil their children and do not teach them the value of saving. Mine did, in fact teach me what it means to save and work for what you want, I have not taken a penny of my parent's money for anything since I was 15 when I got my first job.
I also had impulsive behavioral issues too, I would get frustrated to the point of vocal outbursts and yelling over some of the most petty things. I can honestly say I rarely ever get genuinely angry, but my frustration level tolerance when I am not medicated is incredibly low.
My parents only ever felt I was just a typical rebellious teenager who got fresh sometimes. My father refused to accept that there could be any other underlying issue. My mother however, wondered.
I was first clinically diagnosed when I was 18. I saw a therapist, and together we attempted to formulate a plan on how to cope with my behavior and best deal with my issues - without medicating. I was not a fan of the stigma associated with the typical ADHD ritalin popping teenager and I was hoping I could work through my issues without it. I grew frustrated at my lack of progress, nothing got better, I constantly felt like my mind was going at 10,000 miles per hour, that I could never apply myself to finish anything (even video games!) I could literally forget being told something 5 seconds after I heard it. From age 15 to 19 I went through 8 or 9 jobs. I would get so bored working somewhere that I would have to force myself some days to get up and get dressed for work. I could not even count a stack of twenty dollar bills without losing my count 2 or three times.
I finally gave in and asked my therapist about other options, and she told me I could talk to my primary care doctor about Concerta, or methylphenidate. I started on Concerta, and took it for about 7 months. Things improved marginally, but the side effects were not something I could deal with. There were many sleepless nights, as well as erectile dysfunction. There is nothing more infuriatating than being 21 and not being able to get it up. So I stopped taking my medication and threw out the pills.
Fast forward 7 and a half years.
I met the love of my life, and I knew immediately that she was the woman I was meant to be with, and meant to grow old and play bingo with when we were 70. Having been single for several years, and living on my own, I never had to bother anyone with my behavioral issues, and my job at the time was so mindless, that my lack of attention did not interfere, plus it paid well, so I kept it. Needless to say, being in a relationship again allowed my now fiance to see every single issue I have. The inability to follow through on even chores, the feeling I gave her that things she would tell me went in one ear and out the other, the forgetfulness, and most saddening, our arguments escalated quickly because of my inability to not react and blow up.
It almost destroyed our relationship and it drove me deep into depression.
Unless you genuinely have ADHD, you will *NEVER* *EVER*understand what it feels like.
I finally stopped myself and told my fiance that I would get help. I began seeing a therapist, and also a psychiatrist. I was put on 40mg doses of Vyvanse, lysdexamfetamine.
The Vyvanse, combined with the tools my therapist has given me, I am able to better control my behavior, I am better able to concentrate and think before responding. I am able to *genuinely* listen to what is being told to me, I am able to remember to do tasks and I am able to function at the same level as my family and my coworkers, in fact I am now a supervisor at a bank and plan on sticking with this career path.
I feel normal. I have no issues sleeping, no issues with intimacy and my brain no longer feels like it's going 10,000mph.
This is my experience.
Do I feel ADHD is overdiagnosed in children? Yes, I do. I think what many, including myself consider typical childish attention spans is often diagnosed for parents seeing to make sure little Johnny has a 5.0 GPA in 2nd grade so he doesnt blow his chance at being a Harvard lawyer.
Do I feel that ADHD drugs and treatment should be restricted to teenagers over 16? Probably. I think the middle teenage years are when the childish behaviors start to disappear and the genuine ADHD indicators manifest.
I also feel that unless you KNOW what it is like to have ADHD, you have no right to tell me that my disorder is subjective at best and outright fraudulent at worst.